My boys are reaching that age where they fight. They fight about toys. They fight about space on the couch. They fight over just about anything you toss in front of them. Between the fights are the play times. The times they play with Legos and cars are quiet. No drama.
Over the weekend, I was in another room when I heard the “that’s mine” battle start again. Something came over me and I dropped to the floor in tears. As the tears fell down my face they were not out of sadness or frustration, they were out of joy.
When we had our first child, I pretty much assumed that a second child would come 2-3 years later. We decided to have our children spaced out this way and would maybe even have a third if desired. God had different plans for us. 2 years after our first son was born, I was diagnosed with Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). This disease which robs women of their ability to have children had been placed on me. I was devastated and confused on the whole thing. How could this happen to me? My family as a whole had NEVER had an issue having children yet I was cursed with this disease. Two years turned into 4 years which turned into 6. There were at least 4 times that a positive pregnancy test turned negative after a few weeks. I was beginning to accept that maybe our family was meant to have one blessing. One amazing child that would be our world. I was becoming ok with that.
Then everything changed. Eight years later, a little nugget entered our lives and changed our family of 3 to a family of 4. My dream had come true. I have children. Don’t get me wrong, I love my oldest with all my heart but I wanted him to enjoy the relationship of a sibling.
Fast forward to the weekend. The fights. The yelling. All of it. I would not trade this for the world. These yells are like music to my ears. So many have no idea how much of a blessing something that seems so annoying can be.
The next time your kids are fighting, take a deep breath. Think about how amazing these little blessings are. Think about how fortunate you are to have multiple children and have this “stress” to be angry about. Not everyone is as blessed as you. Many women would give the world to be able to hear that.